I have been trying my best to limit my time on Facebook and social media in general, but mostly Facebook. I find it a bit more toxic and depressing than my blog and IG is strictly for art and art sales. I post this blog on my FB, and boring stuff I’m doing, I don’t post anything political as a general rule, not because I’m not involved, I just don’t find it very pro active personally. I also don’t feel the need to post every nice thing I do, my business is mine, I don’t need credit.
I am trying desperately to tone down on ego engaging activity, not always easy. Humans are hardwired to want care, approval, and feeling important is nice. I like people to read my blog, feedback is one way I’m learning to be a better writer, however the amount of likes I receive on any social media platform is less important.
I started thinking yesterday about the things I post on FB. Is it important? Is it ego stroking? Am I making any real impact on anything important? Is it time wasting? And just a general perplexity of purpose. I looked back over my posts I came to the conclusion that I mainly post random daily bullshit, kinda like here. Photos of crap I’ve found cleaning, not so witty thoughts, links to this blog. Nothing vital. Everyone uses social media for their own purposes, I’ve got no issues with that, I just want to make sure I spend time nourishing my real relationships.
One thing I noticed that I simply let slide by is the amount of ads and links to ads, links to articles, memes, shared content from outside sources, posts from my personal liked pages, and of course followed news sources.
I started wondering what would my feed look like if I deleted all of my like pages, all reposted links, all memes, all the people I don’t know very well, all shared content, all news sites. I wanted to keep only the things that people personally said. Thoughts, ideas, photos of their life, and blog links to personal writing.
What I found out is that this takes forever. I spent two hours cleaning fb out, and still didn’t finish. My news feed contained exactly 10 posts from yesterday that people just wrote random thoughts. It was nice actually.
One thing that’s always bothered me about social media is if you don’t know someone personally, or have only had a few interactions, Facebook is not the way to get to know someone. It is a false intimacy. I have spent time with people who have known me mostly from Facebook and they think they have me pegged, when in reality they haven’t even a basic concept of who I am, what I’m involved in, what lies at my core, my values, or what I do in my real life.
This is partially my fault because I don’t just lay everything out there for everyone to see. I think it is a mistake to come to any kind of conclusion about the core of who someone is based on Facebook. I have shared more on here about who I am in the last two months than I have ever shared there. If you’re reading my blog you know I’m somewhat agoraphobic, you know I have had trouble with addiction, you know I have survived rape you know I lean toward liberalism, you know I have alopecia…
Clearly some of my closest friends on Facebook know these things, but I guess my point is that I’m going to start really being particular about that form of social media, I want to keep my wall clear of clutter and highlight people’s real thoughts and posts. I plan on doing the same.
Also wayyyyy less time there, and a push to be more active in my real life.